Parents fulfilling
their UNREALIZED AMBITIONS through their children
Child is admitted
in play school, nursery or KG, when poor fellow may be as young as two &
half. In fact, it is before his/her brain is fully developed. Henceforth, full
pressure of studies, competitiveness, grades is ‘on’. As he grows, there
is heavier and heavier pressure of curriculum and syllabus on him while he
still cannot wipe his nose. For the child to do well in school, then college or
university, becomes a question of life and death, more so for parents, who club
family’s reputation with child’s academic performance and his resultant success
and admission to various prestigious professional institutions.
Biggest
calamity falls when child fails some exam. Most parents are totally
crest-fallen, thinking that everything is lost. You can imagine the condition
of hapless child, who might have worked very hard. He finds the newly emerged
situation very painful but has nowhere to go. This is a great setback to
child’s psyche and confidence. No one cares, what are child’s interests and
talents, nothing but only syllabus, tuitions and coaching classes are the order
of the day.
It’s
great Indian ‘Bhed-chaal’ (following the sheep in front blindly), in which only
aping others, finds prominence. It’s really sickening, when you look at it
closely. Attitude of most parents is totally selfish, basically to ‘enhance
their own or family’s prestige’ in the society or in their circle of
friends. Child’s interest, growth and development are heartlessly forsaken for
the family’s show-off or to satisfy parents’ ego. Most parents want
their child to achieve what they could not.
Worst
is the ‘cut-off’ marks syndrome. A child, who is good and participates in many
other activities apart from studies, scoring one mark less, does not get selected,
while another child whose sole preoccupation is mugging up books and answers
questions exactly as written in the books, gets selected for the coveted seat.
Almost no credit is given for any extra-curricular activity such as
communication skills, debating or essay writing skill, sporting activities,
leadership or organizing skills or hundred other activities, which play lead
roles in later life. How much world has changed in last seven decades, but
we are continuing with the same rotten & long obsolete education system.
Essential qualities which help the child later in life such as Discipline,
Character, Ethics, Morals, Values, Consideration for others, being Helpful and
Kind and other such qualities which makes them better Human Beings, are
totally ignored. Child's upbringing is totally on a Selfish Mode. For the
child, initially Family means his Parents and Siblings. But as he starts
earning and is married, family means his wife and his own children.
These days, older people keep complaining about the changed Attitude of
their very own Sons whose preferences and priorities have changed by now. Blame
lies with child's upbringing by the same Parents who, to start with, wanted to
FULFILL THEIR UNREALIZED DREAMS THROUGH THEIR CHILDREN.
