LIFE'S LIKE THAT

LIFE'S LIKE THAT

A rich man looked through his window and saw a poor man picking something from his dustbin ... he thought, "Thank GOD I'm not poor".

The Poor man looked around and saw a naked man misbehaving on the street ... He thought, "Thank GOD I'm not mad".

The mad man looked ahead and saw an ambulance carrying a patient ... He thought, "Thank GOD I am not sick".

Then a sick person in hospital saw a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary ... He thought, "Thank GOD I'm not dead".

Only a dead person cannot Thank God. 

Why don't you thank GOD today for all your Blessings and for the Gift of Life ... for another Beautiful Day*.

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*What is LIFE*?

    

To understand life better, you have to go to 3 locations :

1. Hospital

2. Prison 

3. Cemetery

At the Hospital, you will understand that nothing is more Important than GOOD HEALTH.

In the Prison, you'll see that FREEDOM is the most precious thing.

At the Cemetery, you will realize that life is worth nothing. The ground that we walk today will be our roof tomorrow.

*Truth about Life if you want to understand* :  We all come with *nothing* and we will go with *nothing* ...

Let us, therefore, remain Humble and be Thankful & Grateful to God at all times for everything. God is our Best Friend. Remember Him always not only when you need Him.

MASTER OR SLAVE

What you want to be, a MASTER or a slave?

   Every individual has Two Entities residing within him, and a battle for domination between the two, is always on. Winner entity only decides what sort of life you will lead. Whether you cherish and relish the way you are living and love every moment or hate it calling it dull, monotonous & boring.

   First one is BAD, which is full of Anger, Greed, Envy, Discontentment, Ego and Arrogance. It feeds on resentment and guilt. It lies and cheats, is filled with pride, acrimony and a sense of inferiority, which often, gets converted into superiority complex in many people. It is then that you want to subjugate others, to lord over them. Your expectations from others become high, while you want to give nothing in return. Fulfillment of your desires is paramount for you and you have them in plenty, which results into tension-filled stressed existence. You are always in comparison mode, evaluating other person’s financial worth compared to yours or others. Your total outlook is always materialistic, greedy, money-oriented and phony.

   The other entity is GOOD. It is full of Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Serenity, Humility, Kindness, Empathy, Generosity, Faith and Compassion. You are, giving and sharing type, helpful and kind, treating everyone with due respect, exactly the way you would like yourself to be treated. You know the correct perspective of money, like to share it and are neither spendthrift nor miser. In nutshell, you are a balanced person with lots of substance.  

   And the battle is always won by the Entity YOU CHOOSE TO FEED. If you are the first type, you are a slave to your desires. You will be hardly ever feeling good except for momentary highs, when your desires are fulfilled. In fact, your desires and cravings play major role in your life. First entity comes more naturally to most people, while  the second, GOOD one, you have to put-in lots hard work to imbibe.

   It is the duty of the parents to guide and coach their child from his/her formative impressionable years. Parents must become the loving guides of the child by personal example. Child’s mind can be compared to walking on the field of soft grass a few times. Soon a path will emerge. Child is the ‘field of soft grass’. Supposing the same field is littered with stones or other hard objects. Even after years, no clear path will emerge because as people age, it becomes harder to instill or imbibe good qualities or GOOD in them.

   It is easy to mould the child’s nature with second entity, if parents take good care of basic habits, instill right discipline, compassion and right character in the child. A child is like a free-flowing river when fresh inputs in the form of selfless unconditional love and caring guidance, are given. These qualities can be best instilled by parents in homes, not in school by teachers.

DON'T WORRY

THINK BEST YOU HAVE!!! DON'T WORRY WHAT YOU LOST.

Do not think of what you do not have;
Instead, appreciate what you have and can still have.

Do not think of things lost; 
Instead, value what you still have and may yet find.

       Do not cry over spilled milk;
Instead, rejoice in what was left.

       Do not think of what you are not;
Instead, be humble with what you are and can still become.

       Do not think of what others say you are;
Instead, concern yourself with what you affirm to be.

       Do not think of the hours and days past; 
Instead, look eagerly to times that are yet to come.

       Do not think of what you failed to do;
Instead, think of those that you were able to do and can still best do.

       Do not think of mistakes committed;
Instead, count the things you did right.

       Do not think much of the pain you have caused;
Instead, plan for ways to make amends.

       Do not think of the sufferings you now bear;
Instead, look to the comfort when relief draws near.

       Do not consume yourself with thoughts of what could have been; 
Instead, marvel at what has become and will become.

       Do not be anxious to attain greater happiness; 
Instead, content yourself with the little things which bring you bliss.

       Do not aspire to fill your cup at once; 
Instead, have the patience to do it little by little.

       And if by chance you fail, do not fret over the empty part on top;
Instead, celebrate the space filled up.

       Do not condemn nature when it is at its worst;
Instead, think of the times when it was at its best.

       Do not blame luck for things you miss;
Instead, learn from things in which you have been remiss.

       Nor should you curse luck or others for life's misfortunes; 
Instead, accept them as part of life.

       I say then, Live fully, die a little,
Learn much but question less.

       Have just enough but give much more,
Be contented each time to crave much less.

       Doubt less and affirm a lot,
Understand more, and be understood less.

       Worry a little but hope you must,
Accept all, resist the least.

       For all things happen,
In due time they must.

HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS

HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS?

Before attempting to resolve any problem or issue, we must try to understanding its genesis. Children are in conflict with parents, spouses with each other, siblings, caste conflicts, regional, religion and Nations. Last century was full of conflicts resulting into untold miseries and murder of millions of people.

Conflict starts basically from the heart which is at war because we want to subjugate others, feel superior to others. Our perverted mind enjoys seeing other lesser beings in pain. Because of restless heart and mind, smallest disagreement escalates into an ugly argument, reasoning losing way totally.

In such common situations which are harmful to us only in the long run, we fail to introspect, forgive, forget and move towards much needed Harmony within the spouses, family, society & Nations.

However, every problem has a solution if we face it squarely.

Try the following to RESOLVE CONFLICTS in your life:

·       Recognize that something is wrong and needs mending.

·       Start looking for solutions sincerely and honestly.

·       Stop feeling victimized which might make you aggressive.

·       Try to see things from others’ perspective too.

·       Wherever you feel you are at fault, better admit or at least mend yourself. Show your compromising and changed stance.

·       Stop grumbling, complaining, criticizing in general.

·       Improve your tone, body language and mannerism.

·       Get into the habit of attentive listening. Most conflicts start because we do not listen to understand but to reply.

·       Often, in conflicts, more than reasoning, inflated Ego reigns.

·       Be sympathetic to other persons’ views.

·       Always dwell on agreements first, then slowly disagreements with intention and impression to resolve through give and take.

·       When other person speaks, do not interrupt, take time to respond positively. Never let emotions or self pity rule your head. Remain above them.

EVERY CONFLICT CAN BE RESOLVED IF WE ARE PATIENT.